I am way too busy. I have a daily practice, a professional job, two beautiful kids, a bumping-along social life, teach my classs, run a side business and I volunteer regularly on an assortment of projects. Life is good, don’t get me wrong. My practice has taught me to be present in each thing even with other deadlines looming. It hasn’t done anything to empty a little bit of my dance card though. If anything, this newfound calm under fire has even tempted me to say yes to even more, because, hey, I’m calm, there must be room for more. Especially if I like the person asking. I find myself plugging favors into small gaps in my calendar and have even taken to writing my kids into my calendar even though they live with me half the time. Each day ends up scripted from wake up to pass out. When life inconveniently doesn’t follow my script there is tension and things undone. What I want is time for integration; time for reflection; time for dinner. What should I do?
Sleep Like a Log
It sounds like you are a push over. Listen, I need some help on some personal projects myself, are you free?
I share this link with you from a fellow blogger, Just say NO.
Practice saying no to the things that don’t really matter, like no fries with your veggie burger or no thank you to the dessert. When you get good at the little things the big ones will be easier. It takes a strong sense of yourself to say no and to know you will be accepted for who you already are and not what you do on don’t do. It is clearly a boundary issue. When you say yes all the time, you don’t leave space for the really great opportunities to befall you.
Keep up the good work.